some things...
Okay, so I said that when I got back to talking about wedding things I would discuss: 'picking your wedding party, how do you know if you are ready to get married, how to talk about who will pay for what' - I will start with just one of these.
Picking your wedding party is a big part of planning. This group of people will be a big part of your day too. When you think about your wedding party think about people that are your TRUE friends. Also, if you have siblings, I think it's a no brainer to have them be part of the bridesmaids/groomsmen. Unless you have a whacked out relationship with a sibling, in my opinion they should be in your wedding. This is my opinion because I have very family oriented. I have been close to a lot of my family as long as I can remember. I will have my sister in my wedding party as well as my cousin. Also, my male cousin will be a groomsmen. This was something I talked over with my fiance and we agreed that we wanted these cousins to be part of our big day. As far as the friends that I have chosen, they are very close true friends that I want to share my special day with. These are friends that I know have my best interest at heart and who are there for me through thick and thin. This goes for the guys on my fiance's side too. He has his brother, my cousin and 2 close friends. You honestly need to think about who is truly there for you, who you truly want to share your day with and who will truly be honored to be part of your day.
Don't get me wrong, I coulda picked like 10 girls to be on my side but they wouldn't have all been true close friends. So just be very thoughtful in your decision about who you want to ask to be part of your wedding party and make sure you talk to your fiance before you ask and pick on your own.
Also: be considerate of the friends you do ask. For example, if your BFFL is getting married a few months after you and you want her as your MOH, maybe talk to her about if she can hack it. Personally, I would be so occupied with my own wedding that I know I wouldn't be able to give 100% to being a MOH for my friend if I was in that situation. Along those same lines, ask if so and so wants to be a bridesmaid and if they respectfully decline for whatever reason, you have to be OK with that. I know it is an honor to be asked to be part of someones wedding and I am sure most people do not decline BUT, there may be a situation where someone does and if they do, that is okay. You can work around it and ask another friend or just not ask someone else. Needless to say, no one likes a bridezilla. :) ((that's all that is on my mind for now, I will post again tomorrow with more!))
Picking your wedding party is a big part of planning. This group of people will be a big part of your day too. When you think about your wedding party think about people that are your TRUE friends. Also, if you have siblings, I think it's a no brainer to have them be part of the bridesmaids/groomsmen. Unless you have a whacked out relationship with a sibling, in my opinion they should be in your wedding. This is my opinion because I have very family oriented. I have been close to a lot of my family as long as I can remember. I will have my sister in my wedding party as well as my cousin. Also, my male cousin will be a groomsmen. This was something I talked over with my fiance and we agreed that we wanted these cousins to be part of our big day. As far as the friends that I have chosen, they are very close true friends that I want to share my special day with. These are friends that I know have my best interest at heart and who are there for me through thick and thin. This goes for the guys on my fiance's side too. He has his brother, my cousin and 2 close friends. You honestly need to think about who is truly there for you, who you truly want to share your day with and who will truly be honored to be part of your day.
Don't get me wrong, I coulda picked like 10 girls to be on my side but they wouldn't have all been true close friends. So just be very thoughtful in your decision about who you want to ask to be part of your wedding party and make sure you talk to your fiance before you ask and pick on your own.
Also: be considerate of the friends you do ask. For example, if your BFFL is getting married a few months after you and you want her as your MOH, maybe talk to her about if she can hack it. Personally, I would be so occupied with my own wedding that I know I wouldn't be able to give 100% to being a MOH for my friend if I was in that situation. Along those same lines, ask if so and so wants to be a bridesmaid and if they respectfully decline for whatever reason, you have to be OK with that. I know it is an honor to be asked to be part of someones wedding and I am sure most people do not decline BUT, there may be a situation where someone does and if they do, that is okay. You can work around it and ask another friend or just not ask someone else. Needless to say, no one likes a bridezilla. :) ((that's all that is on my mind for now, I will post again tomorrow with more!))
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